“Since more women play video games than in years past, it's only natural for guys to give them to their female love interest. Some gift games, however, could get you punched in the face by sending the wrong message. When buying games for your girlfriend, make sure you avoid these potential disasters.”
Last week, a headline, by the name “Don’t Buy These Games for Your Girlfriend,” caught my eye. I always love reading the cheesy countdown lists, provided by AOL or AIM, that are usually based on almost nothing. But this one is more than pertinent with its overwhelming amount of gender stereotypes.
According to the list, men should NOT buy the following “potential disasters” for their girlfriends:
-Weight Loss Games (ex: Wii Fit)
-Brainy/ Educational Games (ex: Brain Age)
-Cooking Games
-“Imagine” Games
-Violent Games(ex: Grand Theft Auto, Mad World)
-“Just ones she hates”
-Erotic Games
-Sports Games
The only ones I can truly understand are “just ones she hates,” “Imagine” games and erotic games. Why would anyone buy a gift for their girlfriend that they would hate? The “Imagine” series is obvious, since it’s primarily for small children (I shudder to think anyone has a girlfriend that is a little girl) and erotic games just seem inappropriate to buy for
anyone. If you are into that, then buy it and keep it to yourself.
As far as weight loss, educational, and cooking games, I find the reasoning really silly. The list claims that a woman will think her boyfriend is calling her fat with an exercise game, stupid with a “brainy” game, or her cooking bad with a cooking game. Maybe this reveals something about women in American society, though. Do women really take any kind of gift as an attack on them? If I give jewelry to a woman, will she misconstrue that I’m saying she is poor? I wouldn't be mad if someone bought me Brain Age. So what is it that is different in women’s minds that make them react in such an accusatory manner?
The sports and violent games make the least sense to me, though. What a glaring generalization, that women don’t like sports. Plus, it does not seem very fair to simply say that women don’t “like” violence. Plenty of women enjoy scary/ gory films. Or are the creators of the list really implying that men
do like violence?
While it is definitely filled to the brim with stereotypes, it makes me wonder: what were the people who made this list basing their assertions on? Generalizations have to come from
somewhere. Maybe the way women respond to certain gifts is an implication that they are more self-conscious than men. But it leads me to another question, what is so unique to women that makes them more self-conscious than men (generally speaking, of course)? Are lists like these, perhaps, perpetuating stereotypes? Are they programming women to think that a gift has some negative signal behind it?
The part on sports and violent games also made me ask myself, why are sports and violence automatically considered masculine interests? I suppose the "aggressive" quality usually tied to masculinity played a part in creating those stereotypes. In reality, most women (and men) are more complex than this article would have you believe, and their likes and dislikes are not really so easily categorized.